Nekos
01-02-2003, 01:32 AM
I am 26 years old and nevous as hell. I been with my girlfriend for 4 years now. I am her first and only partner. She is not mine.
My main problem is that I do suffer from premature Ejac, which inturn gives me low self-esteem. I am lucky if i can enter her without unloading in the first 5 mins. A short term remedy i found is drinking, which numbs me but i do not like drinking. I get very nervous when we start. I basiclly rely on foreplay to get her off before me, but that is not saying much. She does not participate in foreplay, maybe thats cause she can sense my nervousness or maybe she shy and nervous as i am. When we try to talk about sex, positions, foreplay the conversation does not seem to end smoothly, usually one of us is alittle upset. I think we are both just nervous of each other, even after 4 years. I am tired of having intercourse and not lasting like a bull. I have never been taught anything about sex or foreplay. I have had to learn as I go. Its kinda hard to learn when your partner is newer then you and is shy/nervous as you are. Now i am not hung like a bull, I am average size, 6'' and good size girth. She has told me that the size of it for her is good, but I know for fact that my stamina is way to low. I can masterbate for a good long time - 30 mins or more or until i just wear myself out, but when it comes to her I loose that self-control. If I can improve on myself, I know things will change for the good, but where do I start? Wha can i do?
I want our sex life to be great, but i don't know where to start to learn to improve on that aspect. I know for a fact that, I can not help her, if I can not help myself. I need self-control, I need to stop my premature ejac. I basiclly need to improve my whole aspect of sex and foreplay. I read women mags all the time to improve my knowledge of women bodies, sensitive spots and things to try and do to improve, but its not working, or maybe I am missing something that I just don't understand.
I really need help here. I love her to death and thats the only part of our relationship that is suffering. HELP PLZ!
My main problem is that I do suffer from premature Ejac, which inturn gives me low self-esteem. I am lucky if i can enter her without unloading in the first 5 mins. A short term remedy i found is drinking, which numbs me but i do not like drinking. I get very nervous when we start. I basiclly rely on foreplay to get her off before me, but that is not saying much. She does not participate in foreplay, maybe thats cause she can sense my nervousness or maybe she shy and nervous as i am. When we try to talk about sex, positions, foreplay the conversation does not seem to end smoothly, usually one of us is alittle upset. I think we are both just nervous of each other, even after 4 years. I am tired of having intercourse and not lasting like a bull. I have never been taught anything about sex or foreplay. I have had to learn as I go. Its kinda hard to learn when your partner is newer then you and is shy/nervous as you are. Now i am not hung like a bull, I am average size, 6'' and good size girth. She has told me that the size of it for her is good, but I know for fact that my stamina is way to low. I can masterbate for a good long time - 30 mins or more or until i just wear myself out, but when it comes to her I loose that self-control. If I can improve on myself, I know things will change for the good, but where do I start? Wha can i do?
I want our sex life to be great, but i don't know where to start to learn to improve on that aspect. I know for a fact that, I can not help her, if I can not help myself. I need self-control, I need to stop my premature ejac. I basiclly need to improve my whole aspect of sex and foreplay. I read women mags all the time to improve my knowledge of women bodies, sensitive spots and things to try and do to improve, but its not working, or maybe I am missing something that I just don't understand.
I really need help here. I love her to death and thats the only part of our relationship that is suffering. HELP PLZ!