What is your main focus??

[digger]

When you meet a girl.

Poll should read pick the one most relevent, not important, but I can't edit the poll.

[rideout]

i voted for general appearence since i would look at her, and try to find out if she is clean looking, has style, how she handle her self in certain cases,her laugh, smile, etc. not just doesn she good good.but i will say that looks are the biggest ice breaking part beciz your not gonna walk up to someone that u find to be non attractive and try to pick them up.
I mean u mite as well go over and say damn your ugly but u wanna fuck. :sm35

[digger]

I was the one that picked your looks. To me I have to look attractive. Female thing I guess.

[Dazzlingdaz3]

I picked my "general appearance" This covers everything from my looks, my dress and my personality to my penis.

I figure that if I look good and feel good, so I will eventually attract the attention of the type of girl I seek. Having been through the pain and anguish of a long term marriage/relationship gone wrong, so I have become particular about the type of girl that appeals to me. I get my fair share of interest, but these days I see through women far more easily and have yet to meet the one that appeals to me on all levels.

There is a saying that "a fussy man is a lonely man." Well I would much rather be lonely than emotionally and financially scarred for life as has turned out to be the case :o
Still the eternal optimist that one day Miss right will sweep me off my feet and we will live happily ever after - in the meantime, I just have a shit load of fun!! :)

Cheers
Daz

[falcon]

Personality comes in first, then she has to turn me on real hard otherwise it don't mean anything.

Falcon

[anth1225]

I'm married but I'll add on here
The 1st thing I see is general appearence, but one thing I've learned is looks are not everything.

Personality is for sure the turn on factor. Lots of great looking people who are self absorbed and selfish and not willing to get along. They make me sick. ;)

However I've found that "ordinary" looking w/ a great personality makes me HOT!!!
I fell in love w/ beauty but selfishness shows itself over time it's NO FUN to live with!

When the person is HOT to you, you will find that while their looks may not be mainstream beautiful, you will be attracted to them because God makes all His creation beautiful!

[chazster]

I chose her general appearance because sometimes you can look at a girl and you may think she looks hott but she may also look mean or bitchy. You can tell alot about people by the way they carry themselves, facial expressions, and how they treat people around them.

[Big Al]

I would also add "intellectual compatability" to that list. A lot of problems can arise if there is a large intellectual gap between you and your lady.

[biggerandbetter]

i voted personality because i think that's the most important by far, whether you're meeting a girl for friendship, or whatever other reason it might be :p . its easily the biggest turnon when u meet a girl!

but then once i start to consider a girl as more than a friend, i think my own appearance becomes the most important. :sm27

[digger]

Your votes on the poll are very interesting so far.

Once the poll closes I will tell you what a woman thinks is in a mans mind when it comes to meeting, forming a relationship.

[turtle]

Since I have been with the same woman for over 30 years, my opinion in this poll isn't worth much, but i thought that I would comment. I still do remember those days. My first thought was if she doesn't look good don't bother. Then find out if she has a personality and an intelligent mind. Clearly the personality and mind were the most important considerations, but it had to be part of a good looking woman. I'm not talking raving beauty, but definitely attractive. Also, a good smile was important.
turtle

[Narutobaka]

Her General Appearance, must have nice teeth and clean! Big ass will help too! LOL!:sm27

[falcon]

Yea man!

Wide hips and a narrow waist give me a boner from hell!

Flacon

[Warlock]

When you meet a girl.

Poll should read pick the one most relevent, not important, but I can't edit the poll.

Good poll Digger, I thought it was looks, but you know what, I learned for me it was something you didn't even post and that was comunication skills and inteligents looks came after. My whole life it was looks till this lady came into my life and rocked me. Didn't even know what she looked like for atleast 3 months, now I can't get her out of my mind. She is not only a very smart lady she is also a FOX, looks and brains what more could a guy want?

Alister

[digger]

Now the poll is closed I can tell you what a girl thinks a man looks for in a woman when he first lays eyes on her.

Her boobs and her looks are the most paramount. If she doesn't have it in looks she will try to do the best she can to look presentable and make up for it in her boob size.
Yes I too am that vain that my looks are the most paramount as I don't have the boobs.

Mens cock size is of no importance, it is their looks and general appearance.
Next would be their personality, and their intent, all this goes through our minds within the first half hour of meeting.

[rideout]

Also i know women look at the ring finger and guys dont lol

[digger]

Also i know women look at the ring finger and guys dont lol

do they? !! :)

[chazster]

So what are you saying? That when a girl goes to meet a guy she made up her mind about him, or worries about herself first then the guy? Does that mean if she is very well dressed and showing of the stuff she likes you or just wants to look good in general? Just getting a girls point of view.

[Vine]

If you're referring to rideout's quote, it means that women tend to care more whether or not the guy they will be "spending their time with" is married, whereas men don't tend to give a shit as much...and will therefore be less reluctant to chase after married women.

Big Vine

[chazster]

No I am talking about what digger said women think about when they meet guys. Sorry for the confusion.

[digger]

When a woman goes out her primary goal is about herself. It is the old nature thing, the woman does what she can to attract a male. You know debutante, the old king and queen stuff, well for a woman it is still strong and will never die.

Why are there so many products on the market for women to combat ageing, I mean you don't hear of DrLewin's for men now do you!! Come on, even the thought of a man shaving his privates still shocks those in their 40's+, heaven forbid if you shaved under your arms, you think smelly, hairy underarms is no more a turnoff in a man than a woman. In stoneage it may have been great to put your head under a smelly armpit and have your hair smelling like bo for the next two days till you hit the spring waters, but in today's society, come on lets see the world move to the men's vanity.

So when I am in my bathroom, putting on makeup do you think that the first thing that will come to my mind when I hit the scene will be if a man's dick is big, or if he is the best jock in town. No. What I will want to hear is how great I look, how young I look for my age, how special I am, how smart I am, (yes female derogatives are still there in a mans world, we have been treated as the lower of the species and it still sticks).

If you are drunk forget it, unless she is pissed too, then all you will be is a memory best forgotten, if you are not as well dressed as the woman you are chatting up forget it,
if you smell bad...wow what a turn off, go take a shower, heck if you don't take interest in how you look, regardless of your inside personailty how do you expect a female to take any interest, I mean it is how we feel about ourselves that shows on the outside as to what gives an impression of what may be on the inside.

It always has and always will stand true, whether it be in a job interview, a bank interview for that loan when we go for that new car, how we present ourselves will be the foremost impression on what we make to anyone, whether it be male or female.