 I'm not sure how to start this off, but I will try my best. I met a beautiful woman who I really like. She is the sweetest woman I have ever known.
She is honest, caring, and loving. This woman attracted my eye the first time I met her. I didn't not beat around the bush to ask her on a date. I really felt lucky when she said yes.
We dated off and on for about four months. After the four months we decided to get serious and she moved in with me.
It was the greatest time of my life. She was more than a girlfriend, she was my best friend. I enjoyed waking up every day next to her. I lived from day to day to see her smile.
One day she invited her family to come over. Even though we had been dating for several months, I had never met her family before. When they came in she introduced me as her soon to be husband. My mouth almost dropped to the floor.
I didn't know I was her soon to be husband. I really like this chick a lot, but I don't know if I am ready to be a husband. Now I see her family regularly and they always call me their future son in law. Man, this freaks me out. Every time they say this I get off the subject really fast.
I have also noticed that now my girl is trying to control me. She makes me shave every day (even on the weekends!). She tells me what to buy at the store. I can no longer get the things I like to eat. She says I can't because they are bad for me.
Hey, I work hard all day, I deserve a snack from time to time. I haven't said nothing because I am afraid of what she will say. I am not sure that I want to get married just yet. I am afraid that I will wake up one day and she will tell me to get ready because we are getting married today.
Tell me wise one, how can I solve this problem
She thinks you are a great catch and she is afraid she will loose you. So her way of making sure she doesn't loose you, is by controlling your every move. Soon you will be buying her tampons at the store. But, by the sound of your email, you probably have done this before.
Sometimes women get like this. It is up to us to stand our ground. You can't let her control you like this any more. If you allow this to go on, it will only get worse. You need to put your foot down! You need to do it now!
You need to tell her that you don't feel comfortable with her calling you her soon to be husband. Be nice, don't be an asshole. If you act like an asshole when you say it, she will think that you have no intent on marrying her.
Instead just tell her that you aren't ready for marriage yet. Tell her that you love her with everything in your heart and you will announce the marriage when you feel it in your heart.
Women love to hear men talk about their heart's. You need to tell her to cut you slack. Give you some space. Tell her that you love her and you aren't going any where.
If she talks about how she fears that you will leave her because all of the other men in her life has, tell her that you aren't like those other men. You are a one woman kind of guy. She has nothing to fear.
Tell her that you need to get away from her iron clad fists. That you can make your own mind about things. You don't need someone to tell you what you can and can't eat. She might be the best thing since sliced bread. She maybe your moon and your stars.
If you allow her to control you, she will bring you down. She will ruin your life. Also if the relationship turns sour, it will hurt that much more.
Tell her how you feel, she will respect you for it. |
