Dealing With Situations

Many if find ourselves in difficult situations which can cause problems, some people find going to a nightclub for example intimidating, this could be because they are not very good dancers.

This section deals with situations that can occur and how to deal with them. Clubbing and pubbing is a major part of life if we're looking to pull. 

Everyone knows that if you are after a quickie- it's so easy to pick up a slapper- who by 2 in the morning is desperate to get a bit of loving from anyone and everyone. 

But how do you pick up the girl of your dreams on the dance floor- the one that every man is looking at and wants. What makes or breaks your record?…. Elisha, our very own sex-pert explains all….. We also talk to you about whether you should dance.

How to get women interested -

"Picking up a girl on the dance floor- is harder than it looks- but then isn't everything in life?  Picking up any girl is hard enough- don't get me wrong I do sympathise with you lads, but picking up that all important dream ladee- or shag is just in another league. 

But there are some simple do's- and don'ts which could make all the difference to you- after all a Skoda (however much they've supposed to have improved) just isn't the same as a Jag is it?"

"Firstly, don't appear to be too drunk. "

Now this may sound both stupid and obvious, but you would be surprised at what a difference it can make.  Trust me, no girl, however desperate likes a slobbering, out of control male, breathing smelly, beery breathe all over them.  If you fall or trip onto a girl, knocking them or even worse pushing them over- I suggest you make a hasty exit, without a backwards glance. 

If you know you've had a lot to drink- and feel out of control I suggest you give it a miss all together- you'll only make a fool of yourself, and if you're a regular- beware your reputation may precede you- a very dangerous consequence. 

In the long run if you are successful- you'll only end up embarrassing yourself back at the ranch- and rumours- bad ones are a mans nightmare.

"Try and look like you can dance."

Now for 99% of men I know this is nearly impossible.  If you're the other 1% then thank your lucky stars- you've been blessed.  For girls there is nothing more than a good dancer that can get your pulses racing. 

But on the other hand- a bad dancer is the worst turn off.  Now, it's all very well me saying 'learn to dance' because I know dancing is hard enough- dancing well is almost impossible. 

Listening to the rhythm of the music, may it be dance, garage or cheesy pop is a good starting point.  Closing your eyes may help you, then once you're satisfied dance to that rhythm, although you may not be dancing well, you will be dancing in time- which if anything is better than nothing. 

DON'T copy anyone else's dancing, the fact is although you may think they look good- others probably won't and if they do look good- you will probably won't look as good- and therefore look stupid if not anything else.

"Pick the right combination"

Clothes all ways catch girl's eyes- sometimes for the wrong reasons.  One key idea is to make sure you are dressed correctly or accordingly for the place you are going.  Don't wear a load Hawaii shirt for a Garage Night, or trendy shirt and tie duo for an Indie Night.  You simply just won't attract the right attention or girl for that matter. 

Also make sure that what you pick to wear, at least suits you.  Ask someone else's opinion, preferably females, your mums at the last resort- after all their all ways biased.  But a female point of view is very important- what you mates might say- is probably not accurate. 

Another tip is to ask females what they like to see men in- what catches their eye- and what doesn't- this will give a good general idea. 

Make sure that what ever you choose fits you properly.  Designer labels are not all ways the best option.  High street names are more accessible and come in a wider range of fittings.  There is no point is splashing out on an expensive top- if it doesn't fit you properly.  A nice fitting shirt- can turn an outfit around.

"Look like you're enjoying yourself"

This again may seem obvious, but you'd be surprised at how many men look unhappy or worse desperate when on the dance floor.  Trust me, there is nothing worse than a man continually looking round for talent, almost panting.  Just relax and enjoy yourself with your mates, the aura that you give out will be much healthier and happier, therefore attracting more women.

"Invest in something different"

Personal hygiene and appearance are very important- we have already talked about clothes, but Body Odour is just as important.  Most people I hope start the night smelling nice and fresh, but 4 hours later it may not be the same story.  Smelly men, sweating is the most repulsive thing ever- it makes me feel physically sick. 

Make sure you take ample measures to prevent this happening- you'll thank me later on I promise.  Also, invest in a rarer, more expensive aftershave- It's worth it.  Every man smelling the same can become quite tiresome, when one a bit different comes along- interest sparks!

"Don't creep up"

One of the scariest things I find when out clubbing is when men come up behind you, and try and dance in time with you, sticking their crotch into your backside.  The thought disturbs me!  DO NOT DO THIS!! Realistically how many men do you see have success with this method?

None that I've seen.  You make think, as you stare at your targets bottom that they are encouraging you, inviting you to- Trust me they are not. You're drunk and IMAGINING IT!!

And finally…"Don't blow it"

When eye contact has been established, and you wander over don't blow it by a cheesy chat up line.  They simply don't work these days.  They've been tried before you and failed so don't fall into the trap and think you're different- you aren't at all.  A simple hello, or can I get you a drink may be much more successful than a cheesy chat up line.

Picking Up At Work:

The best opportunity to meet people is actually in the work place. Think about it you spend half or more of your day interacting with fellow employees and customers, these people will get to really see what you are like.

You can always start of as friends with someone and then move on to better things later down the line. Start to use the boring work day to your advantage and pick up some stunning women. Also we will talk about other places to meet women.

How to read your colleagues body language - In order for you to be able to understand the woman in question, and be able to interpret what she is thinking effectively, it is important that you are able to interpret her facial expressions. 

Therefore, try and get her to demonstrate her individual facial expressions for you to that you will be able to interpret them more accurately when she uses them in general conversation.

In this way you will be able to instinctively see whether a point or suggestion you have made has gone down well or not.  In order to encourage her to project these images to you without embarrassment you could attempt to make a game out of this, with both of you displaying your facial expressions so you become more at ease with each other.  This process will enable you to create a stronger rapport with the girl.

Although it is a bit sneaky, you could try asking her about a member of her family and firing questions at her about them, such as “how would you feel if one of them was injured?”, which should make her feel sad or “were you always a daddy’s girl when you were younger?” and watch her face light up with delight at the memories. 

Therefore, you attain an actual impression of what her face looks like in genuine sadness or delight.

From then on, you can ask her questions about how she feels about you etc and watch her facial reactions to gauge whether she appears excited, non-committal or bored by your presence.  Therefore, you asre aware of whether your presence is desired or not.

Other places to meet women -

As I’m sure you are well aware women tend to have a strong affinity for shopping.  Therefore, an ideal place to meet women would appear to be a shopping precinct.  Although the majority of the women are there to shop, there are girls who simply view it as a social venue and meeting place.  Although, it is more of a challenge to seduce girls who are there with a group of friends it is not an impossible task.

You could always spark up a conversation with a shop assistant or female shopper by asking her a question such as: “excuse me, would you do me a favour please? Could you hold this dress up against yourself, its for my sister, its her birthday next week and you appear to be of a similar size to her and seem to have the same excellent fashion sense! Do you think she’ll like this?”

From this introduction you can probe for answers on what type of clothes she prefers etc.  If she is in the middle of shopping then she may be reluctant to maintain a conversation, so you may need to move quickly, but if she is a shop assistant and the shop is relatively quiet then she may be willing to take the time off and chat to you.

Libraries -

Over the years, libraries have become more and more popular with girl, whether for doing college homework or research for some matter.  Regardless, there are numerous girls for you to choose from, and everyone deserves a break every once in a while.

These types of girls will no doubt want to talk to you about the subject they are studying and show off their intelligence.  Let them talk, and simply listen to them and create a rapport through mirroring and paraphrasing the girl. 

By letting them talk, they provide you with an insight into their interests, and from this you can begin to understand what type of girl she is.  From talking about this subject with the same level of enthusiasm as her, you are able to develop a rapport with her easily.

Coffee Shops -

Especially the speciality ones are usually packed solid with women throughout the day, which forces the issue of where you sit, hopefully next to a pretty girl.  Even if there is room in the shop, simply say you prefer to have company when you drink and ask if you can join her.

One possible opening conversation you could use is the coffee.  Since it is a speciality coffee shop, you will find that the women tend to come here for the prestige and the atmosphere and surroundings rather than the actual coffee.  Therefore, you could discuss which coffee she prefers, and why she prefers it over regular filter coffee. 

By talking in detail about the aromas and the flavours you can involve some level of sexual chemistry.  Women love discussing things in detail and will no doubt love to hear your opinions on the subject too.  Try to involve the use of metaphors, which will make the conversation even more stimulating and will make the girl melt to pieces.

Restaurants with attached bars -

These particular places tend to cater towards a professional crowd and consequently you will normally find there are women in these bars who come there to unwind after a long day’s work, and will be most receptive to some light conversation with a friendly stranger.

Sport clubs -

The main advantage of these clubs is that you are all there with the same interest, and consequently it is easy to bring up a subject of conversation, which should flow easily if you are both passionate about the topic