 This is the age-old question. It is a mystery to most men. But now that you know what you want, you can start to figure out what women want.
What's you have crossed that bridge you can start making a move on you perfect women, by personally appealing to her and making her fall for you. Within the first three minutes of women meeting you she will have already have judged you.
Unfair as it maybe- it's a fact of life. She'll notice you clothes, mannerisms and place you into a section of society.
The first three minutes will make or break what happens. The key is to make those first three minutes work to your advantage- make it count.
Unfortunately it is a fact of life that people judge you on appearances alone, but it happens, so you will just have to work it to your advantage. The key is to make to most of what you have got- not letting anyone say you haven't made the effort.
DRESS YOUR BEST!
Whatever the situation you must dress your best. Make sure that what you are wearing is right for the occasion- there is nothing worse than going bowling or to the local in a tie and suit. Not only will you look out of place- but also it will make you uncomfortable and this will reflect in the way you act.
If you simply aren't confident- a girl will pick up on it within 10 seconds. Also make sure that what you wear goes together. Don't wear navy and black- it's a major fashion don't- it will be picked up immediately.
If you are unsure on what is right and wrong- and what suits you, take a female with you- a work mate or a sister shopping- they will give you some honest opinions and ideas on what suits you.
Don't be embarrassed about asking- it's a fact of life. If you are not sure what is happening- all ways go over dressed- it is much easier to dress down a suit, than it is to up dress a pair of old jeans!
Make sure that every time you go out you make the maximum effort possible into looking good. Meeting women can happen in any situation when you know how. It will be worth all the effort when you meet the girl of your dreams at the supermarket!
By making just that bit more of an effort, you will feel much better in yourself. This will result in a massive confidence boost- and no one gets more attention than someone oozing confidence does. Attention to detail is the key.
Having a shave, using a new after shave, clean shoes, soft skin and matching gloves and scarves will add something extra to your outfit and appearance- meaning you will stand out more. It is these little extras that could make or break a situation.
If money is a bit of a problem then don't worry it is simple enough to get round. All you need to do is invest in a few key items: a smart jacket, a denim jacket, trendy jeans and a pair of black trousers. Then over this basic collection, over time you may add things. The key is to be able to mix and match, creating different looks for different occasions.
PERSONAL BITS:
This is even more important than the clothes that you are wearing. Make sure that you treat your body with the utmost respect that you expect others to give it. Whenever you go out make sure you have a bath or shower- there is nothing worse than sweat to deter women.
Women, notice everything. Don't take any short corners or trips. Make sure that you have you cleaning regime down to a fine art.
At first it make take time, but after a while you will fall into a customised routine that is easy and quick for you. Make sure that you go over everything. A good starting point is to write a checklist, which you can mentally check off: Are you ears clean? Are your nails clean? Have you had a shave?
The key is to demonstrate to women that you appreciate looking good and take pride in yourself.
FITNESS:
Don't get me wrong you don't have to be the next gladiator- but if you do make the effort to get a bit fitter it could make all the difference. If you hate exercise- that isn't a problem. If you shop around I am sure you will be able to find something to your liking.
Even if you only do it once a week, it will make you feel great about yourself and up self-esteem. It will also improve you stamina- which in turn will help you in the bedroom department- allowing yourself to control yourself more- catering for your and your partners needs.
You never know- a gym is a great place to meet women- but remember-dress appropriately.
GIVE THEM SOMETHING DIFFERENT:
The key to getting noticed is to give women something different- a bit quirky! It can be anything that you can think of- anything that truly reflects you is even better. Maybe carry a prop or where a distinguished hat- anything that gets a second look is a bonus. By daring to be a little bit different, you are displaying confidence- which women love.
KNOW WHAT YOU WANT:
Wherever you are, whatever you are doing it is very important that you know what you what, who you are and what you stand for. A good tip is to maybe go over who you are, so when a women asks you- you can tell her without stuttering or going blank.
But the key is to find a happy medium- you don't want to sound too rehearsed- like you are bored with her, or too geeky. REMEMBER EVERYTHING TAKES PRACTICE.
ROMANCE IS THE KEY:
This takes little effort and can take your relationship to another level. Women love to feel wanted and appreciated- the response they give is fantastic! Also they will return the favour- which is nice if not anything else.
It doesn't have to be grand gestures like twelve dozen roses- perhaps a single one on her pillow, for when she wakes up. Or maybe dedicate a song to her on the radio.
But remember- only do this sparingly because she'll come to expect it and don't do it after you have fought- you'll find you will get into a routine of it. The other way is to simply be nice to her.
It doesn't take any effort at all- a lot less than it does to be horrible to her anyway! Tell her that you love her eyes, or that she is so funny- anything you can think of- anything you like about her. It's a great way to cheer up an unhappy girlfriend!
FINALLY HAPPINESS REFLECTS IN LAUGHTER:
Not everyone has the ability to make everyone laugh- that’s why only a few make it as comics, but everyone can make someone laugh- who is most likely to be an ideal match for you. Being on the same wavelength is a great starting point for any relationship.
Don't be afraid to use your sense of humour- take the risks- if she the right one for you it will pay off. If you are successful it will build you confidence no end- resulting in better success with the ladies.
WHAT WOMEN HATE:
Now I will talk about things you should NEVER do in front of women. Although when you read them they may sound both simple and obvious, I bet 90% of men have done them at one time or other. This is probably through no fault of your own- you just simply don't realise it such a big turn off to women.
DON’T BE A LOUD MOUTH:
There is nothing worse than a loud male who loves the sound of his own voice, especially when he insists on using bad language. All ways presume that women don't like bad, sexual language, so NEVER USE IT ON A FIRST MEETING. When you get to know them a bit better it is up to you to make this decision, but play it safe and don't risk it.
DON'T FORGET TO SHAVE:
This is a big issue for most women. Although you maybe used to it- women aren't and unshaven men are thought of as unattractive. There is nothing worse than kissing an unshaven man- stubble will scratch and irritate a women and her skin. If you do insist on having facial hair make sure it is well maintained and cleanly cut, not being itchy or prickly.
DON'T PERVE:
Women will all agree that there is nothing worse than a bloke that sits and stares at her body. It gives out the totally wrong impression. You are simply giving out the impression that you don't appreciate the real women- her feelings and personality and are only interested in her body.
Now, this doesn't mean you can't check her out, but the key is to be much subtler about it. . You will never get anywhere if you spend you time looking at her breasts.
Eye contact is very important. Maintaining it is even more so. If you are meeting the women for the first time it is important to keep eye contact going. Not only does it give a goof impression, but also sparks will fly!
DON'T TOUCH WOMEN UNWANTEDLY:
NEVER EVER touch women! It is a cardinal sin! Women don't like it, it immediately means that the two of you will get off on the wrong foot, and a bad atmosphere will be created. Whatever you do, pinching a women's bottom will never be forgotten.
By not fondling women, you are already showing that you are different, that you respect women and treat them properly. This simply gets you off to a good start.
DON'T TALK ABOUT PAST EXPERIENCES:
Everyone does this- you are out with your new women and you mention your old ones. DO NOT DO IT! Avoid all conversation about past relationships. Without realising it you will begin to go into great depths and start analysing your past mistakes
This will not only make your date feel very uncomfortable, but may also show you up to be very shallow- and who wants to go out with someone shallow?
Also a women who you are with wants to feel that you are giving your undivided thought and attention to her- not to an ex. Talk about her, ask her questions, make her feel wanted.
Also by confiding in your new women, you may find that by accident you are grouping them in the 'friend category'- a situation you want to avoid in all costs. Talking to women, about previous women may be a real touchy subject- you just can't tell so it's best to steer clear at all costs!
WHERE TO FIND THE WOMEN:
One thing that most men don't realise is that women surround them everyday. It is these women that you need to go out and meet. Although many of these women won't fulfil anything you want- some will and it is up to you to go out and make good use of every situation and opportunity. Women are around us in every, everyday situations.
This chapter outlines all the different possible places you can meet women, and then how to aim for that woman. Different methods are discussed. Some of them will not appeal to you- you may feel uncomfortable or just plain stupid, but remember you are in control- you consciously make the decisions- controlling what you want.
DATE MATE:
One of the best ways to meet other singletons is organised dating groups and agencies. But you must be careful. Be wary of outlay- and make sure you know what you are getting into before paying out any substantial sum of money.
Anything is worth a try, but it is safer to know what you are getting involved with- so I don't recommend chatlines or classified advertisements- but you never know unless you try- but all ways way up the pros and cons before getting involved.
New technology has brought on-line chat and dating. This enables you chat over the Internet together, to people all over the world. This again is a great way of meeting a wide range of different people. After all you never know until you try! It also allows you to trade pictures and personal details.
I do recommend that you are honest- you'll only get caught out- and it simply isn't worth it. Treat people how you would liked to be treated. There are many groups especially for singles.
They are based on people having a similar interest that they share. These are a great way of meeting new people and don't be put off by the term 'single', you aren't alone, everyone is in the same boat. Special nights are also organised in your local areas, check the local newspaper for ideas.
It may happen that wherever you go you still may not meet your perfect partner, the women who you are aiming at. Although this technique is good, and does save a lot of time- you never know where you may meet the woman of your dreams!
ALL ABOARD:
This applies to the theory that you never know when you may meet the woman of your dreams. It suggests that you try and get everyone aboard your boat- the more the better.
Think of it like this- the more you have aboard the more you have to choose from-Sounds fantastic! So the long and the short of it is: TALK TO EVERY WOMEN YOU LIKE THE LOOK OF!
Once you have approached the women, and discovered whether you like them or not, progress to getting their phone number. The more numbers you have the more dates you can go on. This means you have a much better chance of finding that perfect woman.
Remember, whatever happens don't get down by the fact of rejection- every man suffers from it at some point or other- it's just part of life. Also be enthusiastic. If you're in a good mood- it shows and you give out good vibes- therefore attracting a lot of attention. A smiling face and laugh are highly infectious- they work a treat!
NIGHT LIFE:
Bars and clubs are a great place to meet women and use the 'all aboard' approach- after all you're surrounded by women in all shapes and sizes.My main tip is to go to the right kind of bars, which have a good atmosphere. Perhaps try a late bar, rather than a loud nightclub.
Or maybe pay a little extra to get into the VIP room- the atmosphere is a lot quieter and it's a lot easier to talk to women. It is much more comfortable to be able to hold a reasonable conversation, than having to shout over loud music.
Make sure that you are going to a bar or club that reflects your taste. You don't want to be stuck talking about Heavy Metal all night if you can't stand the stuff- a bit of thought and forward planning is all ways worth it.
COFFEE SHOPS:
These are on of the worlds unrealised resources. Coffee bars are a great way to meet women, A good tip is to visit one close to where you live- meaning that there is a good chance that any women you meet will live close by- making a relationship or dating easier to manage.
Internet Café's are springing up all over the UK/USA & rest of the world. These are great places to go- the atmosphere is usually relaxed- and why not kill two birds with one stone.
Café's are a really good informal way to meet new women. The atmosphere is usually calm and relaxed, so approaching women is much easier in principal. A coffee, for most women is a great way to take time to cool down- conversation and light banter will probably be welcome.
SUPERMARKETS:
Everyone has to go to the supermarket- it’s a fact of life. It is also a fact of life that women are much more likely to be doing the food shopping than men- therefore meaning the women to men ratio will far be in your favour. It might be worth thinking where your ideal women may shop- Asda? Or maybe Sainsburies? It may sound stupid, but a little common sense can go along way.
Food alone gets the senses going- so seize the day and make that opportunity happen. It doesn't have to complicated or out of the ordinary- next time you see a good looking women smile as you go passed- to initiate communication- making that first step.
DON'T follow good-looking women round the shop- you'll only scare them off! This will make them feel uncomfortable- a reaction you simply don't want.
If a women looks stressed and upset don't go further to aggravate her. If she's worth it wait until a better time- it will pay off. Maybe after she's paid- she'll feel better knowing her shopping is done. It is said that you can tell a lot from a person's shopping-, which I believe is true. Look for tales tell signs- nappies, meals for one- it wills all pay off in the long run.
MIX AND MATCH:
Mixing and matching what you do is very important. It will simply mean that you are exposing yourself to a much wider variety of people and women. There are lots of ways in which you can incorporate this into your normal lifestyle without too many hassles.
It just takes a little thought. By taking new opportunities and widening your horizons you'll not only meet a lot more women, you'll also gain a lot more practise- which in turn will mean that you will get better and better and simply gain more confidence- which means your success rate will grow.
Don't just confine yourself to meeting new women- by meeting new mates and making new friendships you will in turn make further relationships through them. This will also make you more comfortable and confident, as you will have their back up. There are many ways to mix and match, but to get you started I've come up with a few suggestions:
1. Take new classes at the gym- maybe step classes that are popular with women.
2. Go to the gym at different times- different people go at different times.
3. Walk to the local shop.
4. Take a different exercise route-jogging or walking.
5. Get involved in local events- the local football team, or fund raiser.
6. Join the library- you never know who you may meet.
7. Do something that you've always wanted to do.
8. Take the bus to work instead of using your car.
9. Take the stairs instead of the lift.
10. Walk your dog on a different route, or through a different park.
Just use your imagination! Anything goes- and everything benefits YOU! The more practise the better the success rate.
MAKING THAT PERFECT AIM:
Every man wants to find his perfect women- not just anyone. Finding that woman is of course much harder than that and takes time and preparation, but it will be worth it in the end. Start by thinking about your perfect partner. What would you ideal women do with her time? What does she do career wise?
Once you have figured that out- it starts to get easier because where she shops and what she does at a particular time will all correspond to this starting point. For example: You'll find a shop assistant in a sandwich bar at lunch, but a lawyer in a restaurant. A receptionist may go to the gym after work in the evening, but a bar tender would go in the day- before the evening rush.
This will also enable you to determine where you are likely to bump into her. A designer boutique- or the market place. Once you have discovered what your ideal woman does, and how her lifestyle works it is up to you to work yours around it.
It is a good idea to set out a timetable showing all your commitments: socially and career wise. This will then enable you to designate time to go out and meet your ideal women. It may sound stupid, but trust me it makes it much simple.
Don't worry if you do experience some failure in the beginning, everyone does. Don't take it personally, just make a note of and try and think where you went wrong. It is this procedure that will help you in the future- no one ever got anywhere without hard graft. By making a note of all your activities you will soon discover what is more successful and what isn't.
But remember it is always a good idea to remain focused on what you want to achieve- not only will this make it easier to find your perfect match, it will also make you feel better when you suffer a knock back. |
