 Once you have started a conversation with a woman the next step is to meet your targets: Name, Common ground and Contact Getting her contact details is of course the most important part.
You may get her telephone number or her email address or even both! You need these details so you can make future arrangements with her.
This is the all-important 'Dating Game'. However, getting her number is only the first step. It's all very well getting a woman's number but doing anything with it or dealing with it incorrectly is a different matter.
If you both have busy lifestyles the phone maybe a major source of communication for you.
Getting a woman's number and dating her is a real tricky business. Women just don't give out their number to just anyone. It is therefore your job to persuade and reassure that it is a good idea for her to do so. It may sound daft but trust me; men fail mainly down to stupid mistakes that could be totally avoided.
HONESTY MEANS TRUST:
For a woman to give you her number she must feel that she can trust you. Offer your name the first chance you get as assurance and ask her hers if she doesn't offer you it immediately. Then use it repeatedly showing that are genuinely interested and are polite.
Show her that you have a stable background. Mention your job, interests, hobbies, friends and sport. By doing so you can then link her to one of these categories.
Ask her what football she supports- if any ask her why and see if she would like to watch them together sometime. If not steer off that category and try again in a different one.
THE CARD:
A great way of showing some class is to have some business cards made. They don't even have to have you business on it, simply your name and your number. It's a great way of establishing trust. Not only that, you can write her number on the back on one and simply keep it in your wallet where it will easy to find.
ALWAYS MAKE SURE:
Whether or not she has your number or not make sure you have hers. Never ever take any chances- after all she may not call you. It is totally up to you to initiate that next move. If you really like this woman then you should take no chances when it comes to it.
MAKING THAT FIRST CALL:
Making the first call can be a really nerve wracking thing to do. So it is really important that you get it right. After all you don't want to have to go through those nerves more than once! The key is not to scare her off. Don't call her too soon, but don't call her too late either.
A happy medium is about two-four days. Don't call her within the next 24 hours- it may scare her off-, which you don't want. If you have given her a set time when you were going to call try you utmost hardest to stick to it. If you can't then ring as soon as you can and apologise for your delay explaining the situation.
Make sure that she is going to answer when you call her. So don't phone her in the evening if she works night shifts. You don't want to go through the nerves two times.
You want to if possible catch her in a good mood- maybe after she's been to the gym- it totally depends on her. If you do get an answering machine only leave a message if you feel absolutely comfortable with doing so. If you do leave a message I suggest you tell you call back later, therefore not leaving it up to her.
When you finally get to speak to her it might be a good idea to actually plan what you are going to say to her. You might find that you mind may go completely blank- which would be really embarrassing. Make sure that you are alone when you call her.
Turn off the TV and close the door. There is nothing more annoying than someone only paying half the attention necessary. When she answers tell who you are straight away- this will avoid all confusion and save embarrassment later.
Once you have initiated your hellos make a bit of small talk. This will help you to relax and feel a bit more comfortable. It will also establish a bond between you. By doing this it will also enable you to work up to your big moment.
When asking her out for a date be direct and clear- it's the best way. Maybe suggest something that you know she or you both are interested in. It will show that you have put thought and consideration into the date-, which she will respect you for.
When she accepts you must then work out between you a time when is best suited. It better to wait a bit if you are both sure nothing else will get in the way. There is nothing worse than a date that is going well being cut short.
After all you may not get that first kiss! Then arrange where you are going to meet. Be sure you are both clear on this and the time. It will avoid confusion and upset at a later date.
THE FIRST DATE:
This is the first chance you are going to get to actually hold a decent, informative conversation. You need to find out if this woman is your type and whether you would like to see her again. It is important to have as much fun as possible without going over the top or appearing stupid.
Use this date to build up a possible bond between the two of you. Investigate further into that common ground. Remember it is really important not to get up tight. Relax and feel comfortable- if you do it's a pretty safe bet that you date will to-, which is what you want right?
Don't pressurise her into doing things she doesn't want. If she doesn't want to don't criticise her for it however you really feel. If you do she'll hold it against you and it will show her that you don't respect her for who she really is.
WHERE TO GO:
The most important point in this section is that you must both feel comfortable with each other and your surroundings- if you don't then this will reflect on future dates. Where you go is totally up to you but below I have come up with a few suggestions:
Drinks. This is a really safe, common idea for a first date.
Coffee. This is also a pretty common fist date. It a really nice simple and relaxed atmosphere.
Movies. Also pretty common. It's a familiar place to go, but less talking involved.
Activities. You could go bowling or ice-skating. It's a great fun way to get to know each other
A bit different. Maybe the fairs in town or the circus. It just depends on you.
There are many other places you could go on your first date. The important thing is for you both to have fun and get to know each other a bit better- to see if you have a future together.
DATE NO. 2
If your first date was a success then you should consider what you are going to about a second and third one. Remember the first one is all about having fun, the second is where you need to use all your charm and wit. It is around this time chemistry may start to build up. But remember be patient- all things come to those who wait!
THE CHEMISTRY CLASS:
Once you have begun communicating with a woman the next step is to get the chemistry between you flowing. Although you may feel attracted to her immediately it may take her a little while longer. It is very important that sexual attraction and chemistry is apparent from both sides- if it isn't the relationship- sexual or not, just won't work.
Remember your main aim- to have sexual relations with women, whether it be short term or long term. It is a common misconception that you can't control how a woman feels.
The fact is you can. You can encourage the woman of your dreams to like you- resulting in sexual activity. The key is to learn how to build up sexual chemistry with any woman of your choice.
OPPOSITES ATTRACT?
Despite what you may think this actually isn't true. In most cases women are more attracted to men who are much more similar to themselves than different.
To work from this angle you must show the woman that your are similar to her by showing that you understand and can relate to her. Once a woman senses this common 'bond' between you, interest will be sparked from her side.
Verbal communication plays a big part when decided whether you are attracted to a person. Although looks and appearance do play a large part so does conversation and personality. Don't underestimate this.
If you take it on board you can use it to your advantage! Show to her that you are similar by agreeing with some of the things she talks about. This will show that you are interested and knowledgeable about similar aspects of life. Highlight common interest that you share by adding: "Another thing we have in common!"
By showing her that you are similar it will become obvious to her that you are compatible and that you possibly could have a future. Once she realises this she will begin to open up further and let herself connect with you further.
GET CONNECTED:
To increase the chances of a woman saying that she will go out with you, you must be able to give yourself the best chance possible. If a woman feels a 'spark' or common interest with you she is much more likely to agree to see you again. By achieving this connection you will be able to get any woman you want. There are three main ways that you can create this:
LET'S GET PHYSICAL:
You perfect woman will have her very personal, unique style. To spark off immediate interest you should try and adapt your style to suit her style. She may be a power dresser, or very sporty. If she's wearing a football shirt, wear one too.
Women will notice if you dress like them. Everyone compares themselves to each other- it's only natural. If you are going for someone completely different - nothing like you or whom you have dated previously maybe it's time for a change?
It is also important to reflect your desired partners body type. If you want a sexual relationship with a super fit, toned woman then it is recommended that you treat and train your body in the same way. Women who are conscious of their weight and appearance will pay the same attention to yours. You also want to be able to keep up with her don't you?!
TALK THE TALK:
By listening to the way a woman talks is a great way of determining how she is feeling and what her mood temperament is. Listen to the tone of her voice and notice the speed of which she talks. The key is to then reflect her speech type and patterns.
By levelling your voice to hers, a woman will automatically feel more at ease with you, creating a better connection. If she is calm and relaxed speak slower and quieter. If she is excitable and lively speak louder and faster. But make sure that you are being subtle- if she notices what you are doing she'll be totally put off you.
My final tip is to really listen to what she says. By doing this you will soon pick up on her individual mannerisms. Try to copy these if you can. Look at for specialised vocab- maybe slang or conversational terms.
BODY TALK:
As I said in an earlier chapter body language is a very important aspect of be able to seduce women. This method is where you learn to copy the woman's body movements and personal gestures- this creates a likeness bond between the two of you.
This may sound very complicated but it doesn't have to be- simply start by facing the same direction. Then copy her position. If she is leaning on a table, do so also. When she is talking she will automatically make gestures. She will shift the position of her head for example. When she does this you should follow her.
But remember be very subtle- you don't want to offend her.
Once you start using these three methods you will soon noitce the difference when interacting with different women. You will find it a lot easier-, which results in a better connection and attraction rate. This is what you want- after all it is that, that results in you achieving your goal- HAVING A SEXUAL RELATIONSHIP.
GET YOUR AIM:
How to get a woman into bed with you can be a really complex issue- but it doesn't have to be at all. But the first key point is to be in the right frame of mind. You must be positive and confident within yourself. If you aren't they who will be? Unless you feel that you are going to achieve your goal, you simply aren't going to. So make sure that you really believe in yourself- it's a great starting point.
LET HER THINK SHE'S LEADING:
Despite what most women do say, they are too looking for sex just like you and most other men. However, most, if not all women will deny this. If you want to get a woman to sleep with you then the key is to play her game.
Let her think that she's leading and controlling the situation. If she feels like she is then she won't reject you at all. If let her think she's decided that you going to bed, she will be much more enthusiastic about it- and you'll benefit from it.
GET THE MOOD:
Women take much longer than men do to get in the mood. It’s a well-known fact. Men can jump from one situation to another without a thought, but women like to be wooed and admired. You got to make her feel wanted and appreciated- this will help to relax and make her more responsive.
The key idea is to show her lots of attention. Make her feel that only she matters. Also increase the amount of body contact: brush her hands or lean in closer. This will all tell a woman that you are interested in her.
You must give her sufficient clues as to how you feel about her. If you don't she will feel unsure and will not stick around. A great way is to spring romance on her when she doesn't expect it. A good way is to lead her up stairs, or carry her over the front door. She will really appreciate the effort and attention.
ANSWER HER PRAYERS:
When entering a new relationship all women have the same fears. It is these feelings and worries that will prevent a woman from following her heart. Now to prevent this happening it is your job to sub-consciously answer those questions without her realising it. By doing so you will not only get her into bed, but also make her more comfortable resulting in a more enjoyable experience for both of you.
PROTECTION:
Women always worry about protection when it comes to sex. Not only does she not want to get pregnant, but there is the threat of STD as well. Don't take any chances ever- always be prepared- always use a condom.
AIDS is a major factor in modern times. You certainly don't want to contract the disease. For a start it's not curable. Always make sure you have enough condoms for your activity- and that they are usable and are in good condition- not out of date.
COMPLIMENTS GIRL:
Many women believe that they aren't good enough. Most are never satisfied with their appearance or how attractive they are. As a result they are always judging and being judged. These thoughts will play at the back of your woman's mind.
Relieve her of this by telling and showng how much you like her- make her feel really good about yourself.
Complement her on what you find really attractive about her. Talk about her best features- eyes, breast, waist, legs, anything you can think of. But remember; don't go to over the top- make sure it's true and that you mean it. It will only make her feel worse if you don't.
FUTURE PLANS:
Most women are scared of being used and abused- that is dumped. If a woman gets an idea that this may happen she'll never sleep with you or have anything to do with you. To avoid this happening you must appreciate that she feels like this and tell her otherwise. BE SUBTLE!
A great way of doing this is making further plans- like a date or an activity for the following week. This will let her know that you aren't going to treat her badly and that you do respect her.
SEX ON THE MIND:
Although men think of nothing else, women do have a lot more on their minds, they look at the broader picture. This means that is your job to get her in the mood. Get her to start thinking about sex- then she will start to imagine having sex with you. You can do this in a few different ways:
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Emotive vocab. These are words that are connected to how you feel.
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Sexual words. Do this when talking about a normal situation.
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Wear sexual, passionate colours.
But be careful not to be too obvious. You'll only get caught out and embarrass yourself. Don't assume anything is going to happen- women don't like presumptive men!
KISSING:
Kissing is a really important of getting to bed with a woman. Although you may underrate it women don't! It is important to get the timing and type just right. By kissing a woman you are not only communicating with her, but also preparing her for sex. Kiss her at the right time and you'll get her even more worked up!
Timing is really important- you don't want her to reject you because she doesn't feel ready or comfortable. The key idea is to know when a woman is ready and wants to kiss you. A good sign is when a woman looks at you right into your eyes without speaking- then if she smiles she really wants you to.
Kissing someone for the first time can be really nerve wracking. Everyone, even women know this. So it doesn't matter if your first kiss is exactly something to shout about- it maybe great or it maybe not.
If it isn't don't worry too much- everything takes practise. It's similar to when you first meet someone- conversation doesn't always flow well at first does it? Take your time, with a bit of persuasion on your part who knows what could happen.
Don't rush into things.
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