 Basically, until the point where you decide you have to have her, it is completely irrelevant whether she has a boyfriend or not.
To be honest, you really should avoid bringing him into conversation until the very last minute since you do not want her thinking about him whilst you are talking to her.
Once you reach the point where you absolutely have to bring him up though, you need to press her for details on how stable her relationship is, and whether she feels there are emotions lacking in certain departments etc.
Basically any point which you can us to turn in your favour, i.e. any disparaging remark she makes about him.
If she brings up the topic of her boyfriend without any encouragement then it may be wise to enquire about the level of seriousness of the relationship to ensure you are not going up the wrong path. Obviously if marriage is mentioned then I leave the subject well alone, but otherwise its pretty much up to your own judgement.
If she brings up the subject of her boyfriend in a defensive manner, then I find a useful tactic is to ask her if he is out with her tonight, or if not then what is his excuse?
Unless he has a pretty solid excuse, I work her into the frame of mind that the may be out playing the field a little bit. Women hate the idea that they may be made to look fools and the fact that their man could be with another women at that very minute.
It basically breaks down their trust in their boyfriend, and since the shadow of doubt is now planted in their mind they may come to the conclusion that if he is playing away, then why shouldn't they?
You basically have to get rid of the myth that her boyfriend is the perfect man make her look at you and think you are her perfect man even if she only thinks that for one night of passionate sex - what have you lost?
An alternative tactic that could be implemented would be to take the girl on a mental tour back through all he past lovers. From this journey, it will become clear to her what amazing sex lives they had and how her current boyfriend is nothing in comparison.
By comparing them in this manner, the girl becomes aroused and horny, and since you are the nearest man she turns to you. From this point you can increase the level of sexual chemistry between the two of you and from then on it is a quick movement back to your place.
Don't ever, never, ever ask if she has a boyfriend! Maybe she does, maybe not - so what, who cares? Maybe she does, but wants to have a little fun - your prompting about a possible boy friend will put her off the mood.
She'll move on to another guy and get what she came looking for anyway. Or maybe she does, but is also pretty curious about you and wouldn't want the existence of a boyfriend scare you away.
She might even be considering dumping him in favour of you. Once you've extracted that information from her however, she might just write you off in her mind. If however she blurts it out without prompting, it still doesn't mean anything.
Maybe she really thought she wanted to scare you away, but she really didn't know what she was doing:) Take it humorously, be light-hearted and give her another chance:)
Examples:
HB: Sorry, but I have a boyfriend.
You: *Laughing* Hey, I just met you and you are already telling me about your problems:)?
ASF: "If I ask her to meet me somewhere and she says "But I have boyfriend", I answer with "If he makes you happy, then you could bring him along." Then I ask, "Does he make you happy?".
I decide if I should follow up based on the response. Most have had some complaints about him which gives me something that I can work with later and a topic of discussion."
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She seems to really like that boyfriend?
If she says that she is ‘sort of seeing someone’ then this indicates that she is not serious about him, and the relationship is still in the initial stages of development.
Therefore, from this point you can ensure that the image of him in her mind becomes smaller and less significant and the image of you and her having a brilliant time together becomes more prominent and vivid in her mind.
Once she realises this picture in her head is getting more intense she will try to fight it, but since it is already there and her boyfriends picture is disappearing fast, she will begin to think maybe this was meant to happen and maybe it’s fate and so will simply become more drawn to you.
Maybe she doesn't mention a boyfriend? Then try this.
After talking to her for the evening, tell her you’ve had a fantastic night and have really enjoyed talking to her. Then ask to call her, slipping in the question afterwards, ‘do you have a boyfriend?’
Then tell her that you are truly devastated that she is involved in a relationship since you felt yourself drawn to her and could see the beginning of something special happening.
Then ask her how shocked would she be at the thought of seeing you again and spending more time talking to you and getting to know each other better?
Chances are she will be shocked that you asked the question, and will be surprised at her answer, that of course she would love to talk to you again. You then suggest a time and place immediately. And then get it on.
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